I'm NOT anorexic!

<--- gimmie a break... 

clearly i do not look like this!
Let's talk about the comments/messages that I get far too frequently asking me if I have an eating disorder, telling me they hope I don't die yes, die from my 'eating disorder'...and my favorite and the most common "eat some food, or eat a sandwich" and other variations.  You get the idea.  This stuff is also said to (usually about rather than to my face) me in real life.  

Ok.  I'm not gonna pull an obnoxious whoa is me and say I wish I wasn't skinny.  I like being thin.  I like my body the way it is.  I don't think it's perfect.  Just like everyone else there are days I feel I look great, days I feel far from it.  We all have things we'd like to change.  But we should all love and accept what we are and treat our bodies well.  Now, with that said. 

I. Have. A. Fast. Metabolism.  Get over it! I eat like any regular person.  Sometimes I have healthy food, sometimes I don't.  I love carbs, I eat more carbs than not.  I have a weakness for chocolate & if I want some, I eat it.  It's not a big deal.  One day I want pizza, the next maybe salad...and everything in between. I am normal. I am healthy. 

This is me and this is what I look like. 

What bothers me about these comments, is it's so ignorant.  People can't be naturally skinny?! Give me a break.  The topics of Eating disorders/body image is so sensitive.  I have seen it firsthand and know how damaging it can be to those who suffer from it.  It's a disease! It's a mental illness!  To peg me with that when that's not the case when I have young female viewers (and anyone else) reading my comments, is really really irresponsible...and that's why I am so adamant on this topic.  I don't look unhealthy.  I don't look like I'm suffering from malnutrition.  There are people who do (and it's extremely serious and dangerous) and  let's be real, of course I'm not, good lord. 

I don't change much. I had a performance where I sang at a jazz club at christmas time and the dress I wore that night was one I last wore when I was 17 years old.  I am small.  I do wear a size 0.  That's ok! It's natural for me (not unnatural for me).  It's just how my body and metabolism are.  Maybe as I get older it will change, I don't know.  

Because I am small, every bit of weight shows up a lot, or not.  Last year at this time I had a surgery and  naturally lost a bit of weight while knocked out on my medicine for 4 days.  It was probably only 3 or 4 pounds but that was a lot on my frame and holy jesus, were the comments/assumptions coming at me! 

There's nothing more annoying, uneducated or potentially damaging as "eat some food".  You're making assumptions without knowing or asking any of the facts.  No matter what a woman, or person, looks like...what makes you think it's ok to randomly comment on their body or appearance? It's rude, it's stupid and it's none of your business.  

I'm perfectly happy the way I am.  Like I said, we all should be.  This is the only physical body we have to take us through life.  There is a lot I want to do in this world & if I was starving to death I wouldn't have the energy to do it.  

Duh.

Deena Marie Manzanares 

http://www.deenamarie.biz